On April 27, 2016 is when my son came out. It was one of the hardest and confusing days of my life.
I was home from work because I wasn’t feel well, I opened my bedroom door and saw something taped to my door. I instantly thought, oh shoot I forgot to sign a permission form. I looked closely at the note and in his writing it said for mom and dad. I opened the note and I was stunned. I must have read the note at least a dozen times. The note was very well written.
The note said, “I could not tell you this in person because I was afraid of what you might say or do so I decided to do this in a note. I am trans gender which means I feel like a boy on the inside and out. I know this might be a lot to take in but I hope you can accept me like this and get used to it. I wanted it to keep it short so it’s easier to take in.
-from your loving son James”
After reading the note, I called my best friend to talk about it. Then I texted James . The text said, “I love you. I am proud of you. We will talk when you get home. Xoxo.”
He wrote back “You too. See you when I get home.”
This is my first attempt at a blog. My name is Beverly and am 47 years old with 2 amazing children. At present, I have a 13 and 15 year old. My 13 year old has told me that he is trans. I live in Toronto, Ontario, Canada.
I am starting this blog to help other parents and maybe get suggestions. This is a way that I can tell people what I am going through. I was bugging my son to start a blog to help other children and then I thought since he isn’t – I would.
It’s odd, looking back on the adventure we are on, I have learnt it is only a name. The child remains the same. This is a hard thing to remember. It’s amazing what we associate with a name.
It’s amazing after James came out, he wasn’t so sick. This goes to show you how stress can affect a person. The peeling of the hand and feet went away. Him sleeping 14 hours a day went away. Him feeling like he has no energy went away. He has always been a happy child but he is so much happier now.
Please forgive me if I make mistakes. This is all new to me and I am still learning.
I would like to thank my family, friends, and colleagues for their ongoing support. This means so much.
I look forward to the adventure…….and knowing my son.