Coming Out

On April 27, 2016 is when my son came out.  It was one of the hardest and confusing days of my life.

I was home from work because I wasn’t feel well, I opened my bedroom door and saw something taped to my door.  I instantly thought, oh shoot I forgot to sign a permission form.  I looked closely at the note and in his writing it said for mom and dad.  I opened the note and I was stunned.  I must have read the note at least a dozen times.  The note was very well written.

The note said, “I could not tell you this in person because I was afraid of what you might say or do so I decided to do this in a note.  I am trans gender which means I feel like a boy on the inside and out.  I know this might be a lot to take in but I hope you can accept me like this and get used to it.  I wanted it to keep it short so it’s easier to take in.

-from your loving son James”

After reading the note, I called my best friend to talk about it. Then I texted James .  The text said, “I love you.  I am proud of you.  We will talk when you get home.  Xoxo.”

He wrote back “You too.  See you when I get home.”

A Child Named James, A Blog About My Transchild

Introduction

This is my first attempt at a blog.  My name is Beverly and am 47 years old with 2 amazing children.  At present, I have a 13 and 15 year old.  My 13 year old has told me that he is trans.  I live in Toronto, Ontario, Canada.

I am starting this blog to help other parents and maybe get suggestions.  This is a way that I can tell people what I am going through.  I was bugging my son to start a blog to help other children and then I thought since he isn’t – I would.

It’s odd, looking back on the adventure we are on, I have learnt it is only a name. The child remains the same. This is a hard thing to remember. It’s amazing what we associate with a name.

It’s amazing after James came out, he wasn’t so sick.  This goes to show you how stress can affect a person.  The peeling of the hand and feet went away.  Him sleeping 14 hours a day went away.  Him feeling like he has no energy went away.  He has always been a happy child but he is so much happier now.

Please forgive me if I make mistakes.  This is all new to me and I am still learning.

I would like to thank my family, friends, and colleagues for their ongoing support.  This means so much.

I look forward to the adventure…….and knowing my son.