This is my first attempt at a blog. My name is Beverly and am 47 years old with 2 amazing children. At present, I have a 13 and 15 year old. My 13 year old has told me that he is trans. I live in Toronto, Ontario, Canada.
I am starting this blog to help other parents and maybe get suggestions. This is a way that I can tell people what I am going through. I was bugging my son to start a blog to help other children and then I thought since he isn’t – I would.
It’s odd, looking back on the adventure we are on, I have learnt it is only a name. The child remains the same. This is a hard thing to remember. It’s amazing what we associate with a name.
It’s amazing after James came out, he wasn’t so sick. This goes to show you how stress can affect a person. The peeling of the hand and feet went away. Him sleeping 14 hours a day went away. Him feeling like he has no energy went away. He has always been a happy child but he is so much happier now.
Please forgive me if I make mistakes. This is all new to me and I am still learning.
I would like to thank my family, friends, and colleagues for their ongoing support. This means so much.
I look forward to the adventure…….and knowing my son.
The government is waiving the fee to change gender marker for the next year. After that it will be $37. Scroll to the section ‘cost and delivery’ for more information:
The Canadian Paediatric Society has confirmed what we already know to be true.
“Children do best when their parents or caregivers show them that they are loved and accepted for who they are. Discouraging your child from expressing a gender can make them feel ashamed. Give them unconditional support.”
The document below was recently released by the Canadian Paediatric Society. Please pass it along to anyone who may find it helpful.
Here is a powerful article from the College of Family Physicians of Canada, about how to best support the health and wellbeing of our gender diverse children:
I started this blog for me. I think this was going to be my therapy. I was worried about my son and the situations that might happen.
Lucky? Am I or my son lucky because no real issues have happened?
His high school is accepting. He has a boyfriend for just over a year now. He lost no friends. He has gained new friends. This is not the path that was expecting. I am so happy this is the path he is on.
This goes to show, one day at a time. You cannot worry about tomorrow just the here and now.
The next chapter in his life will be finding a job (which he is excited for). A trip in November that is organized with two other schools (extra curricular). None of his friends are going but he doesn’t care. He is a strong independent young man.
Both of my sons have taught me so much. I have a feeling this won’t stop.
Thank you for reading this. I apologize that I don’t post on a regular basis.
Thoughts or comments welcomed.
Ok the title of this is a bit misleading.
I just watched an episode of the Good Doctor which had a story line on a trans child. I strongly encourage you watch it. The episode aired on February 5th and is called She.
While watching this show, I went through so many emotions. I cried, got angry, heart ached etc.
Let me know what you think after you watch it.