A Child Named James, A Blog About My Transchild


This is my first attempt at a blog.  My name is Beverly and am 47 years old with 2 amazing children.  At present, I have a 13 and 15 year old.  My 13 year old has told me that he is trans.  I live in Toronto, Ontario, Canada.

I am starting this blog to help other parents and maybe get suggestions.  This is a way that I can tell people what I am going through.  I was bugging my son to start a blog to help other children and then I thought since he isn’t – I would.

It’s odd, looking back on the adventure we are on, I have learnt it is only a name. The child remains the same. This is a hard thing to remember. It’s amazing what we associate with a name.

It’s amazing after James came out, he wasn’t so sick.  This goes to show you how stress can affect a person.  The peeling of the hand and feet went away.  Him sleeping 14 hours a day went away.  Him feeling like he has no energy went away.  He has always been a happy child but he is so much happier now.

Please forgive me if I make mistakes.  This is all new to me and I am still learning.

I would like to thank my family, friends, and colleagues for their ongoing support.  This means so much.

I look forward to the adventure…….and knowing my son.






School Trip

The school were James goes is having a field trip in September.  This field trip is at a camp in September for 3 days.  This is great, he is excited and so am I.  As I was looking over the form, the school included a rooming request list.  On the request list, it asks who the student would like to room with.  Great, no problem then came the line student needs to room with same sex.  Ok, this is fine but…….who should James room with?  I know he identifies as a boy but over my dead body will he sleep in a cabin with all boys.  I do understand some parents who have children that identify as girls, might be uncomfortable with James.  The first thing that came to mind is WTF.  I am taking a deep breath and I will wait until August to see what happens.

Identity Party

So the date of the Identity Party is set for this Monday.  James and I are so excited. At one point James took over the planning of the party which is fine. He has decided to serve hamburgers, hot dogs and salad.  He has even planned some games and activities for his friends.  It is going to be small since he decided to have it on the long weekend.  LOL

Friends and family are coming so this will be a good day.

I am so proud of him.

Identity Party

So it has been one year since I gained a son, James.  It’s funny how time flies.  It doesn’t seem possibly. 

James has decided that he wants to have an Identity Party. I am all for this idea and I think it will be fun. Unfortunately, it is too late for this month so it will take place next month. James just wanted to invite the family and then it grew yo his friends but only a few. I am afraid to ask how many now. 

James has decided the menu should be junk food, pop, BBQ hot dogs and hamburgers. He also wants games. He is going yo plan the entire party. The only thing I have to do is soy. ARGH. 

Ideas are welcomed. 


I know it has been a while since I last posted.  Lots have been going on with the family.

As everyone knows, I love both of my kids.  I tell them all the time that I love them to the moon and back.

I am confused when it comes to James.  I thought I had this transiting under control – wrong.  I am good that James feels like a boy and now dressed like a boy (he has done this for months now).  The thing I am confused about is his clothes.  Some days he is dressed like a boy and other days not so much.  He sometimes dressed is burgundy leggings, flower headband, or hat.  This is just some examples.  How do I take him seriously when he sometimes dresses like a girl.  This is so hard for my ex and I when he dresses like this.  I feel this reinforces my ex thoughts that this might be a phase.  I know in my heart of hearts that it isn’t.  I don’t understand how he can dress like both a boy and girl.

I know that it shouldn’t matter how he dresses and there is no right way to dress.  I guess I am still old fashion and you dress what sex you identify with.

Any help or advice would be great.